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Can there ever truly be gender equality?
It’s 2025, we should’ve figured it out now, right?
So why does it still feel so lopsided?
The Inequality of Gender Equality
If a woman leaves her husband because it’s an abusive marriage, we call her brave.
But if a man does the same thing, for the same reasons, he’s a loser. A deadbeat.
And we wonder why there’s been an increase in men jumping off ledges to meet their maker.
We have built a society where the knee-jerk reaction to abuse committed by men towards females is to punish the entire male population with humiliation. If a man takes up his more natural dominant position, he is then branded toxic.
And yet that doesn’t apply when women do the same thing.
And we try to espouse equality.
Equality means fair treatment, presentation of opportunities, and conditions regardless if you’re a man, a woman or something else that you choose as your gender.
And yet it seems like it’s been taken out of context and delivered as a punishing blow to oppress men to “pay for their sins of the past”.
I don’t negate that abuse did happen but these were acts done by individuals towards specific individuals. This was not something done by all men to all women. Individuals. Towards other individuals.
If I met one of those men in the past, I would probably sit him down and make him rethink his life decisions through a conversation. Now that conversation could be verbal or physical. It depends on what they want.
Anyway, these past acts done by multitudes of men towards multitudes of women does not represent the entire human species. They are a select few if you view things from a larger perspective.
The sad thing is, those things that jappened in the past have become stories that it seems like a great majority of women take as their own story. And therefore that gives them the right to be abusive towards men.
It’s a sad thing.
And society pummels men into submission through a variety of ways: social media, print ads, regular media.
What about the men who wants to treat everyone fairly?
And in a few decades will there be a reversal in the status quo? Because of what’s happening now, will it end up that men will become or revert to being abusers just because they’re taking what’s happening now as part of their personal story?
What About the LGBTQ?
I’m lucky that growing up, I was exposed to a lot of people who were working for my Dad. He didn’t discriminate. If you wanted to work, it didn’t matter if you were a man or a woman.
We were mostly a female-run company. So yeah, that was ingrained in me early on.
But we also had members of the LGBTQ working for us.
And they were just as, if not even more dedicated at work as the men or the women.
Somehow I still come off as discriminatory.
Oh well, I won’t be able to please everyone.
My classmates would tease me that we had LGBTQ members coming to school to pick us up but that didn’t seem to matter to me. Or at least as far as I can remember.
Because once again, since my mom was the main person running the company while my dad made sales calls outside, the feminine strength that I was exposed to accustomed to seemed natural.
And even if I saw some of the male workers we had showing more effeminate tendencies or women who felt just a little bit more boyish, I could not notice. And that’s why my wife says I don’t have a “Gay-dar”.
I guess I don’t have a “Gay-dar” because it was subconsciously trained out of me?
To this day my dad employs LGBTQ members.
They’re fun to be around with.
They make work a little lighter with their can-do attitude and unwavering enthusiasm.
So when it comes to gender equality, I really hope they’re included and not just men or women in general.
Because without them, life would be dull.
Colorless.
Grey.
Boring.
And unproductive.
Gotta Go Do Some Daddy Duties Now
Well, it’s 6:45AM. I’ve been rambling on about gender equality for the past 30 minutes trying to get my first 1000 words in and I think this is enough mental diarrhea for now.
Gotta go do my Saturday chores: throw the garbage out, wash last night’s dishes because no one else in this house washes dishes, do a little sweep up so that Lyle has a clean place to play in and then cook some breakfast.
I just finished a 9 hour shift as a Local SEO Specialist for this amazing company that I’ve worked for since last year and my day isn’t over. The good thing is I really love the place I work in and for 9 hours, or at least, the majority of 9 hours, I am away from domestic work.
My first break for Zywave is basically spent giving Lyle his night time bath and making sure he brushes his teeth.
And the reason why I went on this little mental diarrhea rant is because I’m tired of having to do everything in this house from cooking to cleaning to caring for the child and making sure he learns his lessons and still be expected to provide financial stability.
Outside of my regular work and this, I also have to manage the farm.
I’m stretched out in all directions. That’s why I’ve cut out playing music for some time now. Writing, which is part of my job, is kind of my only outlet after work.
A thousand words for relief.
And hopefully enough readers to keep my blog earning month after month.
If you reached this part of this article, I apologize for having to unload on you. I promise the next articles will have a more positive note.
And just in case you’re interested, I do have other blogs that cover other topics. Let’see, I have MusikaWabad which is all about music, HayopEtc which is about animals, and Biyernes which is about tech and cars. I hope you visit them and read what I have there.
